I don’t know anyone who has not faced failure or had a heartache. Failures and challenges are part of life. Taking a knock in business, losing money, losing loved ones or having to change countries or marriage status do have an effect on our mindset and our self-confidence.
So I was about to say “the more challenges I am faced with” and then realised that I don’t face any more challenges than anyone else! Challenges happen, so it makes sense that as we get older, we will be able to recall more of the ups and downs of life (not that I’m old!)…
It’s only when we look backwards that all the dots seem to line up and show us a pattern.
When we look at the problem to see what the benefit is, that is when we find opportunity. This doesn’t detract from the severity of the problem, it simply allows us to view it in new light. Perhaps it is a gift that has been given to us to help us step up and play a bigger game?
Focusing on the disaster of a situation vs focusing on the opportunity creates a completely different vibration in our bodies. We feel more empowered, we are looking for opportunity – a more positive outlook. It decreases stress, allows our hearts to be healthier (studies have shown writing in a gratitude journal every day builds cardiac health) and keeps us on top of our game.
“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill
When we focus on the adversity, it’s easy to slip into a victim mentality. I like to think of myself as a very positive person, but from time to time I have this urge to stamp my feet and scream (yes, really!) – and wish everyone could see how unfair life is!
Let’s face it, it’s rather nice to have sympathy every now and then! The ‘poor me’ perspective brings some benefits in terms of getting attention – or perhaps others cutting us some slack. Which is quite nice for a change!
However, the victim mentality doesn’t serve us very well.
When you feel that the world is against you, that all the bad things happen to you and that life is so unfair then you’re always on the back foot. Your heart rate will increase, your blood pressure increases.
It’s a bit like being in the sea with rough waves, no sooner have you come up for air then another wave pounds you over the head – leaving you feeling like you’ll never have a long breath again, or be back on safe ground again.
This is where it’s important to have an expert on mindset, a thinking partner, to help you recognise when or if you’re slipping into the victim mode.
Keep the excitement of life going. Look out for those seeds of opportunity that are lurking around every corner! It’s much easier if you have someone else that you can bounce ideas off to find the opportunity.
Sometimes we are blinded to opportunity ourselves, but it becomes obvious to the trained eye.
When something goes wrong, you can get excited because it means that something great is on it’s way to you!
Who is Jill Hutchison?
I was about to describe myself as I do in my professional capacity, but today instead I will reveal who I am when I’m not working! I am a wife and mother of 3, with unique insights into events and things. For the past 10 years I have been passionately devouring books and material from the world’s greatest thinkers, business people, spiritual gurus and theologists.
The Attitude of Gratitude Journal was published specifically to help you shift your vibration into a really positive one – which enables you to find more opportunities, regardless of what happens to you.
My purpose in life is to inspire others, in both small and large ways. Some will get inspiration from a simple facebook post (thank you to those who regularly tell me how inspirational you find my posts, it warms my heart!) Others choose to attend a Goal Achiever workshop or one of the other events that I run, and get a bit more depth and insight into what drives their mind and what they are passionate about. A select few have the privilege of working one-on-one with me – and I thank you for the honour of being able to take you wherever the sessions lead, without following an agenda, save the one that will serve you best.
My biggest passion is seeing your eyes light up when you really ‘get it’ – when we uncover something that you’ve got inside of you – that you were struggling to see and tap. The work that we do together is sometimes intangible – very much big picture – and definitely creates a shift.
Much as marketers like each of us to have a unique title, something that sets us apart and that we can own – the more work I do, with both groups and individuals – the more I really like the core business coaching role I play. It’s a very special role, to create the space to allow you to think out loud, bounce ideas around. Being a sounding board, and being able to co-create your next steps, the ones that are right for you (not a prescribed program) – is life changing, for all of us.
For application to be considered for the next available Diamond coaching program with Jill Hutchison, please email jill(at)jillhutchison.com with the answers to the following questions:
1. What would you like to get from spending an intense period working on your goals, your mindset and your future vision?
2. What makes you think that I am the best person to work with you at this time?
3. Are you ready to start listening to the nudges and messages that you’ve been resisting up until now?
4. How would you contribute to others on their journey, after our time together has finished?