Today’s video was taken by my daughter Sylvia while we were in Malta. She tapped me on the shoulder and said “why don’t you shoot a Chooseday message here Mum?” So I did!
I’m often struck by how some people see the opportunities in every situation while others see the negative. It’s the old “glass half full” vs the “glass half empty” perspective. Several successful people I’ve interviewed recently have told me that they are a “glass-half-full-type-of-
Which got me thinking:
How do we keep that attitude going even when we don’t feel like it?
How do you become a “glass-half-full-type-of-
person” if you are not already?
Or how do you get it back if you’ve lost it?
Here are some ideas:
1. Decide that you want to become more positive.
Yes, it does start with a decision! Sometimes it’s tempting to wallow in self-pity. Sometimes you simply need to feel whatever emotions you’re going through. But when you’re ready to see the good in whatever is coming your way, it starts with a decision.
2. Write a gratitude list.
Yes, I know you’ve heard this before, but when was the last time you wrote out 20 things you were grateful for? Not just in point form, but in a full sentence. Start each sentence with “I’m so happy and grateful now that….” Or “I’m so happy and grateful for …..”
3. Put some habits in place that keep you positive.
My husband will be the first to tell you that I’m not very positive when I’m tired or hungry!
So if you’re like me you’ll want to ensure you get regular sleep (experts now agree that 8 hours is really what we need).
Food is another mood contributor. Cut out sugar and reduce those carbs which turn into sugar. Apparently the All Blacks team quit sugar in the training to win the Rugby World Cup 2015. Professor Tim Noakes, acclaimed sports nutrition doctor from Cape Town recommends increasing your fat intake to metabolize fat for energy, rather than carbs. Google “Banting” or “Real Meal Revolution” if you haven’t yet heard about it.
Never thought I could cut out sugar as I have such a sweet tooth, but it’s quite amazing how it’s possible (although not entirely while one is cruising the Mediterranean with tempting desserts onboard 24/7!)
Other habits like exercise, your home environment and relationships all contribute to how we view the world.
4. Get real.
Face up to what it is that you really, really want. Stop thinking your goals need to impress others or that you need to fulfil someone else’s dream for you. The best way to do this is connect with your soul. Spend time in meditation, or walking in nature, or journalling. When we tap into what our soul wants for us, it can be different to what our ego wants!
Pursing what your soul needs beings fulfilment, while chasing what your ego wants brings more chasing. Even when you achieve it, you feel like you are falling short.
Love having these conversations. Someone said to me in my office this week “thank you for reminding me how good I actually am”.
What difference would it make to you if you remembered how good you actually are? How about looking for the good within you every single day?
Have an awesome week!
With love and gratitude,