Browse the videos below, you may well get the answers you’re looking for!
There was such a great response to the first video about Running out of your goals, that I have done Part 2 for you!
I certainly don’t have the same goals now as what I had 20 years ago. Don’t be tempted to simply keep the same goals for years – re-examine them to see if they still excite you.
If you’ve run out of energy to work on the goals on your list, they are probably not the right goals for you. They might have been the right goals a few years ago, but you’ve shifted. You’ve grown and evolved. Your drivers have changed. Your goals need to change and grow with you.
We need to relook at our goals at every phase of our lives.
In this video share some tips to help you with that.
What are your goals?
What would you like me to talk about in future Chooseday videos?
With love and gratitude
PS: If you missed last week’s video of Part 1 of Running out of Goals, here’s the link to it.
How quickly Chooseday comes around each week!
This week I’m talking about the importance of being definite about your goals.
“Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money”. Be definite as to the amount. (There is a psychological reason for definite ness which will be described in a subsequent chapter.)”
This is the first of six steps I talked about last week, taken from Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich.
He has spoken about being definite about the amount of money you desire. It’s equally applicable for other things.
If you wish to become more healthy, what exact statement will tell you have achieve this?
It’s not enough to say “I wish to lose weight” as there are a number of ways this could be achieved. You could get really ill and become frail and lose half your body weight, but this isn’t necessarily what you had in mind.
Better to focus on “I’m so happy and grateful now that I can walk up 4 flights of stairs easily and effortlessly” or “I’m so happy and grateful now that I have a toned tummy and look great on the beach”!
If you have all the money you need or want, then decide what else you would like. Would you like more time to spend with family or for travelling?
By the way, money beliefs can also play havoc with our goal setting and achieving. If it feels wrong or upsetting to you to set a larger financial goal than ever before, you could have judgement about riches or making lots of money.
It’s a good idea to spend some time with a good business or life coach to decide if this is in line with your personal values or whether it’s involving beliefs and paradigms that you want to change.
There is a universal law of order, which is important to understand. There is first order, then movement.
By being definite, we create a sense of order first in our own mind, then to everyone around us.
Think of a GPS. You put the destination into your GPS (or google maps!) and you get directions that take you from where you are to where you want to be. Our mind is like our own personal GPS. The only problem is that it’s often set on past destinations or destinations that we don’t even like. Then we wonder why we keep on ending up there!
Being definite about our next destination in life is vitally important. In all areas, from career to relationships. From health to a healthy financial situation. From fun to friendships. Decide exactly what you really, really want.
Allow yourself to be generous with yourself and what you want. Then think of other ways as to how what you want could also help others. If your cup is empty, you can’t give anything to anyone else! If your wallet is empty, you can’t help anyone with money. If you have run yourself down and have no energy, how do you give of your time to others? That’s a whole other topic which I will cover in my future Chooseday messages!
Have a great Chooseday,
Don’t set resolutions. Write down your dreams and then commit to doing whatever it takes to move you one step closer to them.
Resolutions are like to-do lists. The sort of things we feel we should be doing. There is no inspiration in resolutions. They simply keep us being busy, instead of making space to achieve the things that are REALLY important to us.
“A 2007 study by Richard Wisemen from the University of Bristol involving 3,000 people showed that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail, despite the fact that 52% of the study’s participants were confident of success at the beginning. Men achieved their goal 22% more often when they engaged in goal setting, (a system where small measurable goals are being set; such as, a pound a week, instead of saying “lose weight”), while women succeeded 10% more when they made their goals public and got support from their friends.” (source Wikipedia)
It’s way better to get clear on what you really, really want and what is important to you – and then go from there.
In my mind here are some resolutions: Lose weight, be more disciplined, spend more time exercising, keep the house tidy, blah blah blah! Do you feel like jumping up and doing anything after reading these resolutions? Of course not!
Here’s what you could have instead: “I’m so happy and grateful now that my book has reached bestseller status for Christmas 2013 and has been featured in the New York Times (or the Zululand Observer or Stirling Post – whatever you prefer)” OR “I’m so happy and grateful now that I can run effortlessly along Trigg beach in my bikini”
OR “I’m so happy and grateful now that we are enjoying our second honeymoon (celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary!) in the huts over the water at Bora Bora, snorkelling every day and having a great connecting time”
How do you feel about these statements? I certainly feel a lot more inspired and if you don’t it’s probably because these aren’t goals that inspire you. Find statements that inspire and excite you.
Let’s look a bit deeper into those statements we’ve just written:
Lose weight (haven’t we tried writing this before? What results did you get?) – when you tell your body that you want to lose weight, it simply hears that something has been lost and will help you find it. Something like “oh dear, Jill’s lost some weight, lets’ help her find it and make sure it stays on for good so she doesn’t lose it again”. Yay, that’s really going to work!
Be more disciplined: Yawn. Have you ever spent time in someone’s presence that is very very discliplined? Painfully so! There is no excitement in discipline for discipline’s sake. There is excitement in the results you get. Just like people don’t buy a drill because they want to display a drill in their shed, they buy it so they can make holes with it. Wonder why my husband keeps his hidden? Think about what you would like discipline for, and then ask if discipline is really what is required. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t.
Spend more time exercising: Now this has a bit more merit than the first two, but I’d suggest you amp it up a bit. If you love tennis, then decide to play tennis with friends every week or fortnight. If you enjoy the sea, then decide you’ll treat yourself to a swim every morning before anyone else gets up. Make it sound fun, not like a chore. None of us like chores, least of all the child inside of each of us!
Keep the house tidy. Mmm – this is a contentious one. Again, is it the tidyness you seek or is it the desire to be able to find everything when you’re looking for it? Is it being able to entertain family and friends at home and not have everything falling out the linen cupboard as they walk down the passage? What’s the important part of this that will make you want to hop up and do a spring clean? Or even better, hire cleaners to do it for you so you can focus on running your business or get time out with that exercise!
Now lets look at the other statements I mentioned above:
“I’m so happy and grateful now that my book has reached bestseller status for Christmas 2013 and has been featured in the New York Times (or the Zululand Observer or Stirling Post – whatever you prefer)”
This means that you’ve written a book (might want to get writing straight away so it’s ready for release at the end of 2013 – yes, you can do this one even if you’ve never written a book and haven’t started yet). It means that it’s well received – in order to make the bestseller list – so it’s a success. If you don’t care about bestseller status, then change it to “I’m standing at my book launch and love the feedback I’m getting from 100 of the readers”. Make sure it’s personal to you and what presses your buttons. It may also mean a bit of travel if you want to get it into other countries.
Writing I’m so Happy and Grateful at the beginning of each of your statements also implies that you are happy and grateful. Getting into a positive state is critical to achieving your goals. This is why I’ve written the Attitude of Gratitude Journal.
“I’m so happy and grateful now that I can run effortlessly along Trigg beach in my bikini” (Think Baywatch).
This one covers so many things – running effortlessly means that you’re in peak health. Those knees no longer creak and give you pain, you can breathe while running (always a good start if you want to stay alive!), your back is healthy. To run truly effortlessly I think you’d need to be close to your perfect weight for your body. Running along in a bikini effortlessly would indicate that the bikini actually looks good (or that’s what I’m thinking) – otherwise why would you be doing it? If this is a statement that excites you, then it’s easier to eat really healthy, get lots of exercise and nurture your body so you can do this.
“I’m so happy and grateful now that we are enjoying our second honeymoon (celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary!) in the huts over the water at Bora Bora, snorkelling every day and having a great connecting time”
This also encompasses many things. Firstly that you’ve got to 20 years of marriage without succumbing to the divorce statistics, secondly that you have the financial resources to travel to the French Polynesian islands to get to Bora Bora, thirdly that you have the time to go there and spend a few days there. This would imply that income is good enough to get this goal.
What actions would you take? Spend time deciding how to get the money for the trip; or get that body into shape in time; or get a passport before your current one expires. Book someone to come and look after the kids while you go away; Create the lifestyle you want that allows you to take a week or two to go to places like this.
Do you see what I mean? There is a big difference between resolutions and desires. Pick the ones that are going to help you take positive action in the right direction NOT the ones that just make you feel like a failure. Look back on everything you’ve succeeded with – I’ll bet they were things you were excited about. Make 2013 your best year yet!
Make it a good one!
Jill exudes confidence, compassion, and clarity of her mission. She speaks with purpose, asks the questions we really need to ask ourselves to get to the root of the problem and she does not let us get off track of the mission at hand. Excellent to work with!
After one of our Mastermind sessions Jill began to ask me some questions as where I wanted to go in my life.I always thought I was pretty good at assessing this and although I realised I had a fair way to go to achieve my goals I thought I was on track….
Well…another hour later…a completely different story was emerging!
I will give you a bit of my story so that you can relate to the enormity of the turn around…
I achieved well in most areas of my life up until 7 years ago….when I went broke…
I was a member of the NZ Olympic Hockey team who won the Gold medal in Montreal…I became a Member of the NZ Sports Hall of Fame…when in Australia I ran a very successful Financial Services Business…I enjoyed a very good income….I won awards all over the place…I was President of this and President of that.
Then I felt a bit worn out so I decided on a different track and went to Asia to establish a business. Within 2 years I was flat broke! Shortly after that I filed for bankruptcy.
I was taking a “rest” alright!. My income came from a little I earned supported by Centrelink benefits. My selfesteem dropped considerably.
Well I was fortunate that my colleague and good friend Gerry came up with the idea that him and I should team up in his Financial Planning business, he then invited me to join Jill’s Mastermind group.
So here is where Jill took over.
Here I was on this low income and I wanted to go to London to attend my son’s wedding in 2 months time. I wanted to move into a nice apartment and I wanted a new car as my current one at the time was quite outdated, especially calling on people to talk about their money! I also needed to have an income whilst I was overseas and ongoing once I returned.
Over a period of 2 months Jill managed to facilitate (now this covers a multitude of skills that only a person of Jill’s calibre can execute so well) me to firstly lift my belief levels on a consistent basis that could make all my needs become a reality. I became very productive in a smart and enjoyable way.
First result: I moved into a nice apartment with Ocean views only 100 metres from the beach I had been exercising at daily and very importantly the Cafe on the beach. My rent commitment increased 200% and I could pay for it!
2nd result: I flew to London to my son’s wedding with stopovers of 1 week each side of the trip in Asia (one to visit my younger son) staying in upmarket hotels!
3rd result: 2 weeks after my return I received my biggest commission cheque in 10 years!
4th result: I paid CASH for my new car, a Mercedes Sports!
5th result: I am now in demand with several Businesses to help them with their Sales and Marketing. I have also expanded my own Health Distribution business that is providing a very healthy (excuse the pun!) residual cashflow.
Thank you so much Jill Hutchison for getting my life, my business,and my happiness back on track…I will be eternally gratefull!
Alan Chesney firstname.lastname@example.org
If you would like to have a chat to me about Jill’s services feel free to contact me.
I had the privilege of meeting Jill Hutchison around 6 months ago when I was invited by a colleague to join her Think and Grow Rich Mastermind program.
Right from the start Jill was extremely positive and encouraging.She was also very generous with both her time and the low cost of the program.She made it very clear that her purpose was to facilitate the group sessions so that each member could gain valuable personal growth and/or satisfaction from the experience of group interaction.
I achieved significant personal and financial growth from the program.A significant added bonus was the camaraderie and networking opportunities I received as well.In fact I am now involved in business interaction with all of the regular attendees of that group!This has in turn expanded all of our business and personal horizons significantly…especially as we are applying the principles of the Think and Grow Rich progam in these areas.
I know that this progam coupled with Jill’s skillfull facilitating has influenced our extended business and personal networks as well…one area where this is evident is the additional Mastermind programs and Personal Coaching commitments that Jill is now in engaged in(news on how to work smart and enjoy your life travels fast!)
Alan Chesney email@example.com
Mobile: 0414 473 533
If you would like to have a chat to me about Jill’s services feel free to contact me.
On Monday 26 October, Jill Hutchison ran a full-day workshop in Wickepin, Western Australia. The title of the day was “ACHIEVE!” and was hosted by the Facey Group. Special thanks to Carmen Bailey for arranging everything.
Using some examples from Bob Proctor’s Goal Achiever seminar, Perth based Life Coach, Jill Hutchison, encouraged each participant to write their goals in such a way that they achieve them. The day was designed to bridge the gap between where each person presently is, and where they wanted to be. The Law of Attraction, as discussed in the hit movie, The Secret, is just one of the natural laws that affect the way we set goals. When we focus on what we want, rather than what we don’t want, we start to take action to move us in that direction.
Some feedback from the day:
“AWESOME! Thank you for giving me some tools to realise my true goals and to let myself imagine and realise those hidden dreams.”
“It was terrific. Thank you.”
“Thank you Jill, your gentle style of presentation is very refreshing. Hope to see you again in our district sharing with people again.”
“I feel inspired and positive about my life now.”
“Jill was very good, positive, approachable. She also delivered the information very effectively.”
“Very thought provoking.”
“I would love my husband to come along and learn more about setting goals in this way!”
“Jill very good at delivering seminar. Keep the straightforward approach, good for Australians!”
“The presentation was not only very informative, but also very interactive and exciting.”