“As you think so shall you be!
Since you cannot physically experience another person, you can only experience them in your mind. Conclusion: All of the other people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind.
Not physical beings to you, but thoughts. Your relationships are all in how you think about the other people of your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind. Your feelings about your lovers come from your thoughts.
For example, they may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive. However, your relationship to them when they behave offensively is not determined by their behavior, it is determined only by how you choose to relate to that behavior. Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind.”
As I reflect on the teachings that I have got from Wayne Dyer, I am overwhelmed with gratitude and with love. There is a sense of understanding that he played right to the end. The week before he died he was giving a talk in New Zealand. In October he was due to be on the cruise that I’m going on with my daughters and my mother.
I came across this quote above, which I had written down in 2010 on his “last Australian tour” (he did two more after that!). We were fortunate to meet him here in Perth. So if all the people we know exist only in our thoughts, then he is not gone. Wayne is still with us. He is just in another room.
Remember boys who wanted to hop straight into bed with girls they had only just met? Yeah, I do too… And some business owners remind me of that same awkwardness that occurs when anyone tries to rush a relationship before both parties are ready.
This week’s Chooseday message is for you if you want to get more clients or if your business is not doing as well as you want it to.
In the video I share the insights I’ve learnt about using a marketing funnel and the dating model!
People do business with those they know, like and trust. Your ideal customers are out there. Some are doing business with you. Some just haven’t met you or got to know you yet.
More importantly – some are simply not working with you because you haven’t got a sample of what you offer that they can use.
Have a fun week!
With love and gratitude
PS: Next time you are at a networking function, don’t blame me if you laugh out loud when you recognize what I’m talking about in this video!
It drives me nuts when I hear gurus and experts talking about goals needing to be realistic. You’ve probably heard of SMART goals? That R does not mean realistic. Setting realistic goals has got to be the worst possible advice.
In today’s 3 minute Chooseday video I explain more about this. It really does make a difference when it comes to creating the life you want vs the life you think you can have.
My mother wrote this in my autograph book when I was about 10 – and I have never forgotten it! I don’t know who wrote it – but a similar message has been conveyed by many motivational speakers over the years.
You are in charge of your own ship. You can choose to tap into your strengths and go where you want to – you can set your own sails. It’s not up to anyone else to do it for you. Circumstances can’t dictate your results. You dictate your own results. The time will never be right for many things – you have to find the right time. You can create ideal circumstances. It’s up to you.
If we set our sails in the right direction, we get the results we want. If you’re looking for happiness, then set your sails on gratitude. The practice of Gratitude has proven to be a key part of being happy – irrespective of your circumstances. Writing in a Gratitude Journal every day for 6 weeks has proven to contribute to your health and longevity too.
Decide whether you are going to set your sails to take advantage of the gales or if you are going to be one of those people who always complains conditions aren’t right. I know which kind of person is more fun to be around!
Perth Business Coach, Jill Hutchison is the “Tap Your Next Power” Mentor . She takes successful, driven professionals and business owners into their next stage of growth and advancement, the one they have been struggling to see and tap, the one that will throw open the doors to their next opportunity.
Jill connects you to your most powerful self, shifting attitudes, beliefs and actions to spark achievement rapidly by going straight to the issue. She draws out your creativity to craft a goal larger than perhaps imagined. Whether you have a career, or a small, medium or large business – getting clear on your goals is very important. Regular goal reaching conversations help to determine which goals are going to drive you through this phase of your life.
Now your eyes are open, and the path is clear and straight-forward. Now you tap the full power in you to achieve what’s next for you.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, from her book: A Return to Love.
Marianne Williamson’s words are such a great reminder that we stand to stand tall In who we are. To remember that we so have a light to shine, and that we needn’t hide it so that others aren’t intimidated by it.
Today is Chooseday, you can choose to stand tall and allow your light to shine to inspire others.
It was pointed out to me that my Diamond Business Coaching program does exactly that – allow you to shine. It allows you to show your many facets, to attract the right clients, business partners and relationships that fit with who you truly are. Diamonds are precious, as you are too.
As a business coach in Perth, I love helping business owners to shine their light. To combine your skills, talents, abilities and experience into something amazingly beneficial for your customers and clients. There is good reason why you are unique, and there is a growing trend of doing business authentically and on purpose.
In the Far East, there is a tree called the Chinese bamboo tree. This remarkable tree is different from most trees in that it doesn’t grow in the usual fashion. While most trees grow steadily over a period of years, the Chinese bamboo tree doesn’t break through the ground for the first four years. Then, in the fifth year, an amazing thing happens – the tree begins to grow at an astonishing rate. In fact, in a period of just five weeks, a Chinese bamboo tree can grow to a height of 90 feet. It’s almost as if you can actually see the tree growing before your very eyes.
Well, I’m convinced that life often works in a similar way. You can work for weeks, months and even years on your dream with no visible signs of progress and then, all of the sudden, things take off. Your business becomes profitable beyond your wildest dreams. Your marriage becomes more vibrant and passionate than you ever thought it could be. Your contribution to your church, social organization and community becomes more significant than you have ever imagined.
Yet, all of this requires one thing – faith. The growers of the Chinese bamboo tree have faith that if they keep watering and fertilizing the ground, the tree will break through. Well, you must have the same kind of faith in your bamboo tree, whether it is to run a successful business, win a Pulitzer Prize, raise well-adjusted children, or what have you. You must have faith that if you keep making the calls, honing your craft, reading to your children, reaching out to your spouse or asking for donations, that you too will see rapid growth in the future.
This is the hard part for most of us. We get so excited about the idea that’s been planted inside of us that we simply can’t wait for it to blossom. Therefore, within days or weeks of the initial planting, we become discouraged and begin to second guess ourselves.
Sometimes, in our doubt, we dig up our seed and plant it elsewhere, in hopes that it will quickly rise in more fertile ground. We see this very often in people who change jobs every year or so. We also see it in people who change churches, organizations and even spouses in the pursuit of greener pastures. More often than not, these people are greatly disappointed when their tree doesn’t grow any faster in the new location.
Other times, people will water the ground for a time but then, quickly become discouraged. They start to wonder if it’s worth all of the effort. This is particularly true when they see their neighbors having success with other trees. They start to think, “What am I doing trying to grow a bamboo tree? If I had planted a lemon tree, I’d have a few lemons by now.” These are the people who return to their old jobs and their old ways. They walk away from their dream in exchange for a “sure thing.”
Sadly, what they fail to realize is that pursuing your dream is a sure thing if you just don’t give up. So long as you keep watering and fertilizing your dream, it will come to fruition. It may take weeks. It may take months. It may even take years, but eventually, the roots will take hold and your tree will grow. And when it does, it will grow in remarkable ways.
We’ve seen this happen so many times. Henry Ford had to water his bamboo tree through five business failures before he finally succeeded with the Ford Motor Company. Richard Hooker had to water his bamboo tree for seven years and through 21 rejections by publishers until his humorous war novel, M*A*S*H became a runaway bestseller, spawning a movie and one of the longest-running television series of all-time. Another great bamboo grower was the legendary jockey Eddie Arcaro. Arcaro lost his first 250 races as a jockey before going on to win 17 Triple Crown races and 554 stakes races for total purse earnings of more than $30 million.
Well, you have a bamboo tree inside of you just waiting to break through. So keep watering and believing and you too will be flying high before you know it.
Please Note: The above is a reprint of a post used by Don Miller on his website . He credits it to Eric Aronson
~Challenge What’s Possible~
Jill Hutchison is the “Tap Your Next Power” Mentor taking successful, driven professionals into their next stage of growth and advancement, the one they have been struggling to see and tap, the one that will throw open the doors to their next opportunity.
Jill connects you to your most powerful self, shifting attitudes, beliefs and actions to spark achievement rapidly by going straight to the issue. She draws out your creativity to craft a goal larger than perhaps imagined.
Now your eyes are open, and the path is clear and straight-forward. Now you tap the full power in you to achieve what’s next for you.
Speaking to a friend yesterday, I asked him what did he do to get his business from the $8 to the $15 million dollar turnover mark (he has since increased to over $20 million).
There were two things he did but first he said that he had to make the decision. He said that once he had made the decision, the next step was a shift in his mindset. He did what he needed to do in terms of engaging the right people on his team and expanding into markets that could make his company grow.
Last night I was listening to a panel of West Australia’s most successful professional speakers. There were plenty of gems, and again, making the decision to build a successful business was the first step in their success. Since then, there has obviously been a lot of work, dedication and commitment but it all started with a decision.
You see, when we make a decision and commit to it, we commit to working through the lows and the highs along the journey.
So what will you decide today?
Have a great week!
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As a business coach in Perth, I see business owners trying to push on when they really need a break to get refreshed.
Do you ever wonder if there is more to life than what you are experiencing now?
Have you felt busy, busy, busy?
There seems to be some sort of status attached to being busy, doesn’t there?
A few years ago I decided that I wanted a successful business rather than busyness. This came after I experienced burnout in a previous job and again shortly after moving to Australia.
Not many people knew what I was going through because I, like so many others I know, simply kept on going! I even did my life coaching training, NLP and training with Bob Proctor at the same time!
My mantra was “I can sleep when I’m dead” until my naturopath told me that could be sooner than I thought.
Reading Arianna Huffington’s latest book ‘Thrive’ has reminded me of the importance of monitoring our activities and lifestyle. Seeing the warning signs that we could be heading for burnout. I’ve seen it in clients, I’ve seen it in myself. Many overachievers seem to go close to it, even if they don’t go through it.
“burnout makes it much harder to tap into our wisdom”
“When you are burned out and exhausted, it’s much harder to see clearly the dangers – or opportunities ahead. No that’s the connection we need to start making if we want to accelerate changing the way we live and work.”
“We are too busy chasing a phantom of the successful life. The difference between what success looks like and what truly makes us thrive isn’t always as clear as we’re living our lives.”
Here are 13 ways that I have discovered that can reduce stress and increase your enjoyment of life. Taking you from burnout to brilliance – to being able to sparkle again.
1. Get enough sleep.
Yes I know this sounds (yawn) like you have heard it before. When I was told to get 8 hours sleep I opened my diary and realized I didn’t have time for it! If you have networking functions in the evening and going to a breakfast meeting in the morning, it probably doesn’t allow enough time to wind-down to get enough sleep. You might not expect a business coach to tell you to sleep more, but it really does make a difference to your productivity.
2. Shift things around and remove non-essential events.
Eliminate events that go late into the night or begun very early in the morning so you can achieve #1.
3. Decide if you want busyness or business?
Craziness or career? You are the driving your life, take charge of the steering wheel before you veer off the road.
4. Eat properly.
Cut out refined carbs and sugar and see how you feel.
I have found raw juicing green vegetables to be a key part of getting my health back on track.
This is a contentious issue – but check out the Banting eating style as per the Real Meal revolution by Professor Tim Noakes. At least read The Wheat Belly. Increasing your intake of greens and protein makes a huge difference.
5. Take time out to meditate, pray or journal.
If you haven’t tried it before, there are tons of meditation resources, so there is no excuse. Allowing your mind to calm down and actually be ready to think is vital.
6. Go on a positive-mind-food diet. Feeding junk thoughts into your mind does as much harm as junk food in your body. Fill your mind with positive, uplifting affirmations so there is no room for negative self doubt or comments which can send you spiraling down.
This is a key part of solid business coaching, to focus on the thoughts being put into your mind. Your mind is extremely powerful and you need to guard what goes in there!
7. Exercise. This could be at the top of the list. Even a 40 minute walk three times a day increases your happy hormones and makes your outlook more ‘can-do’. Find exercise you actually enjoy so you do it more. If all else fails get a dog that has to be walked twice a day!
8. Write in your Attitude of Gratitude Journal.
Don’t worry if you haven’t written in it much recently, today is a new day, open it up and start right now. Studies have shown that writing a Gratitude list daily increases heart health.
9. Get a coach or mentor
Having a thinking partner or business coach that can help you see what is really important in life gives you perspective. A great business or life coach will create that space you need to think deeply about the areas that need changing or refinement. When you are in the frame, you can’t see the full picture. Find someone who will hold you accountable to your higher self and to your own uniqueness and brilliance.
Yes a simple smile relaxes the muscles in your face and lifts your mood. Besides, scowling and frowning makes ugly wrinkles which none of us need. Imagine if the wind were to change and you were left with that look permanently on your face?
Give your attention to those around you. Listen with all your focus.
12. Remove smartphones and iPads from your room.
Charging devices in another room in the house removes the temptation to check email or social media late at night or early in the morning.
13. Stop multi-tasking.
Multi-tasking is so last year. The wiser move is single-tasking. Do one thing at a time and finish it off. How many tabs do you have open on your computer? This could give you an indication as to how far you have to go on this one. This one is an area that I am working on!
Have an awesome, sparkling week – allow yourself to shine,
With love and gratitude