If you have children on school holidays, enjoy this inspirational message!
Am I crazy?
Am I crazy to agree to a new puppy in the house? We haven’t had a dog since we moved to Australia.
Her name is Pepper Hutchison. See how ultra-cute she is?
I’ve discovered through this process that puppy training is not what it used to be.
The old fashioned way was to use rolled up newspaper and reprimand it when it did something wrong.
The new way that I’ve learnt is to teach it words. So when it’s sitting, you say “sit”.
When it’s lying down we say “down”.
Each time she does the right action, we say the corresponding name. We don’t ask her to sit or anything else until she actually understands what the word is.
The theory is that in a few months, she should sit when asked, and lie down when we say down (I’ll let you know how that goes!)
When you give it a treat, move the treat from it’s nose over the back of it’s head, till it sits. then give it the treat and it learns to sit for treats.
The positive reinforcement is very important, and that is how they learn.
Now perhaps you knew all this long before I did.
I wasn’t really much of a dog person (preferring cats) so although I’ve been around dogs my entire life, I’ve never been the one to do the training.
My point is this: if positive reinforcement works so well with dogs, isn’t also logical that is works well with people too?
“Yes”, I hear you say, “Duh, obviously”
We all know this, and yet, how often do we use positive reinforcement to create the behaviours we wish to see in our own life from ourselves and from those around us?
How many times do we say ‘thank you’ when someone is doing what they are supposed to do? Do we take them for granted?
In business particularly, when things get a bit rushed, it’s easier to only comment when the wrong actions are being taken, rather than to notice the 90% of the time when the right actions are taken.
My challenge to you today:
1. Congratulate yourself for everything you do right today.
2. Notice and congratulate those around you when they do something right.
3. If you notice someone with an awesome attitude, comment on it with the #awesomeattitude tag on social media!
4. Let me know how you go. Add your comments below.
Have a great Chooseday,
Kind regards
Jill
PS: we still have a few places available at the next Think and Grow Rich mastermind starting in January.
Have you run out of goals (Part 2)
There was such a great response to the first video about Running out of your goals, that I have done Part 2 for you!
I certainly don’t have the same goals now as what I had 20 years ago. Don’t be tempted to simply keep the same goals for years – re-examine them to see if they still excite you.
If you’ve run out of energy to work on the goals on your list, they are probably not the right goals for you. They might have been the right goals a few years ago, but you’ve shifted. You’ve grown and evolved. Your drivers have changed. Your goals need to change and grow with you.
We need to relook at our goals at every phase of our lives.
In this video share some tips to help you with that.
What are your goals?
What would you like me to talk about in future Chooseday videos?
With love and gratitude
Jill
PS: If you missed last week’s video of Part 1 of Running out of Goals, here’s the link to it.
John Maxwell shares his thoughts on Evolve
Thanks to John Maxwell for his words of wisdom. John Maxwell is a bestselling author with over 20 million books sold. These books include the 360degree leader, Developing the Leader within you and Winning with People.
Expanding out of your comfort zone, growing (hence the Evolve Dynamic company name!). Particularly relevant is the message about staying out of your comfort zone but not out of your gift zone.
One of the key parts of the Evolve Dynamic process is clarifying what your gifts really are, so that you can capitalize on them.
When you’re operating in your gift zone, or in line with your talents and abilities, you do what you love to do, and you’re ‘in flow’.
Sure, there are still things that you have to do that you don’t necessarily like to do.
If you’re spending 80% of your day in your gift zone, doing what you love to do, it makes the 20% that much more enjoyable!
I would love you to join me for a Think and Grow Rich Mastermind. Book online at www.evolvedynamic.com.
Have a great day,
Kind regards
Jill
Jill Hutchison
www.evolvedynamic.net
Vasbyt. Suck it up Princess….
I see many South Africans (and Zimbo’s) come to Australia and think they have to start from scratch. They try and shrink into a position that doesn’t fit them, and then they wonder why nothing is working!
They’ve heard that you have to do your own housework and you can’t have domestic help, so they set about learning how to do their own mopping and ironing and mowing the lawn.
I returned a call from a CEO one Saturday morning – to find he was cleaning the toilet as he does with his family every Saturday “Housework” morning. This is how some families work, the jury is still out as to which is the most efficient way to keep our place clean…. Is this the life you imagined?
You go from having a maid who does everything, a gardener that also washes your car every week, and a team of staff in your business, to thinking that you need to start from the bottom. Vasbyt. Grin and bear it. Suck it up princess!
Why? Why should you start at the bottom when you’ve been at the top in another country? Who said that these are the rules? Is it what you’ve heard?
We all know that things are different in Australia – but who dictates what changes and what stays the same?
If you really want to enjoy living here, and thrive like you have (in another life), it’s time to decide what you really want. Ja, sure you think you know what you want – but do you really know, mate?
You wanted to move to Australia, and then after the major upheaval you wonder if it’s really what you wanted!
You could just hug Precious if you ever saw her again….
Then you look at the beliefs you have – about living here, about working here, about re-establishing yourself in a world where no-one cares what school or university you went to, or where you grew up, or who you know in the echelons of Joburg society nor that you lived in the northern suburbs or have a beach house.
It’s important to go through a process that has worked for so many others in your situation. Here are the four steps that I have tried and tested with clients and through research on successful people:
- Decide
Clear your head and tap into what you really, really want. Decide what you REALLY, reallly want. What YOU want, not what others want nor what you think others would be impressed with. Yes I know you’ve always had a good idea – and you’ve acted on them. Simply getting here is evidence that you can set goals and achieve them. Take it one step further and see what happens when you go into this in-depth. Every single person that I have a conversation with tells me that they get clarity that moves them into action. - Shift your Beliefs
You grew up in another country, a couple of years ago (let’s not say how many). You didn’t even have TV till you were 6, you remember Haas Daas when it wasn’t the SABC test pattern. Now you talk to your family on Skype and you can see them on your screen – how things have changed. The world has changed, but have your beliefs changed? Beliefs determine our thoughts and actions. Shifting those beliefs to ones that really serve you now, that will get the results you want. What you thought was right may need to be shifted slightly. - Get Connected
Get Connected to yourself first. You move with yourself – so if you weren’t happy in another country, you’re unlikely to be happy now. If you can’t live with yourself, then let me tell you how difficult you are to live with! Connect to the true you – the you that’s inside there. Listen to yourself, take your own advice, walk your talk. Are you clear on who you should be connecting to? You’ve left your entire network behind, or so you think. I see too many hi-flyers come here and think they need to connect to the bottom of the barrel (or try to prove that they are somebodies and failing dismally!). Then they wonder why the connections aren’t going anywhere. You are still somebody important, It’s just that things are a bit different in Oz. Do you have someone that sees your potential when you aren’t? Are you surrounded by big-picture thinkers who encourage you to keep going when you feel like giving up?
Getting connected to others starts with getting connected to yourself and your family.
Looking outside of you for resources and progress isn’t going to do it.
It’s time to look inside, acknowledge who you are and what you’re really good at. So you can stop doing the things that aren’t your core strength and stick to what you’re good at. What? You’re not sure if you actually were an expert in anything? You and I have lots of work to do!
I know that you are an expert in something. It may be in another field, in another country – but what’s in your head travels with you. - Getting connected to Spirit – whatever that means to you. I call it God, but others may refer to it as the Universe, Energy, Universal intelligence – it doesn’t matter what you call it, it’s how you relate to it. You know that there is an intangible something that is bigger than you. It’s also inside of you. You may even need to reset and re-examine your beliefs to see what serves you now. Tap into the quiet voice inside of you – the gut feel, the intuition or divine guidance that keeps you on track.
- Take Action
Thinking without action is about as effective as acting without thinking. It’s more about what you can stop doing, and how to clear out the noise that is stopping you from thinking clearly and getting the results you really want.
Having a clear way forward ensures that you get what you really, really want.
Moving countries is a great achievement. You have done well.
“I feel like I’ve taken 10 steps backwards financially” is a cry that I hear often. What you’ve really done is taken a giant step across the ocean. Now is your opportunity to capitalize on everything you’ve done and make it worth your while.
Start the process that will make a big difference to you!
If you’re looking for growth and advancement, start by shifting your attitudes, beliefs and actions.
Jill Hutchison
(Due to spam, I’ve had to change the way I display my email address on my websites. You can still contact me (if you can think through the way I’m telling you my email address!) – my address is jill at evolvedynamic.com.)
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The Connection Coach – realigning you to your goals with purpose and passion.
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Who do you most want to meet?
I have a great inspiring Chooseday story for you today – I love hearing how people have achieved what they really desire.
This weekend I was in Melbourne to attend the Hay House “I Can Do It” conference. The speakers included Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Doreen Virtue and Sonja Choquette.
I particularly enjoy best-selling author, Wayne Dyer, and have listened to him for many hours in my car. One of my favourite audio’s of his is “There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem”.
He has a way of delivering his message that is easy to listen to but still hits you straight between the eyes when necessary.
Wayne was opening the conference on Saturday morning at 9am. He started talking but was clearly in a lot of pain in his back and neck. The week before he’d been taken to hospital in the USA and told not to get in a plane to fly to Australia! He told them he was coming anyway.
He had to leave the stage after about half an hour as he was in such pain. This is the first time in 40 years he’s had to walk off before he’s finished talking. Every time he looked down he simply couldn’t continue. He commented that it’s clearly an indication that he must only look up in life!
A while later, he came back on and spoke for around an hour. I could see his face was getting more red and it was obvious that he was still in pain.
In the audience was a Doctor. He came forward as Wayne went backstage and made sure he was seen by the best specialists in a Melbourne Hospital.
This is where the story gets really fun – I only heard the full story this morning when Leon Nacson, Managing Director of Hay House Australia shared it with us. This is what I heard:
The doctor that came forward had grown up in Sri Lanka. At the age of 17 he had read one of Wayne Dyer’s books and believed that he could do anything he wanted and be anything, no matter what his circumstances.
He believed he could be a doctor so went about achieving this. He qualified as a Doctor and now lives in Melbourne. He has dreamt of meeting Wayne Dyer ever since that first book. Apparently he was asked who he would most like to meet in the world – and his answer was Wayne Dyer.
When he saw Wayne was in distress, he went forward to help him.
He called his sister saying “Can you bring the car round to the front, I have Wayne Dyer with me…. no, really, I actually do…”
His family knew how much he wanted to meet Wayne, and thought he was joking!
I love inspiring stories like this. Someone makes a big impact on your life, alters the course of your entire life – and then you get to meet them and help them later on in time.
As my mother says, life is like a tapestry, with people weaving in and out, then coming back into your life several years later, making a wonderful pattern.
Yesterday, I was leaving the Melbourne Convention Centre and standing waiting for my ride to the airport. Who should come out of the hotel, but Wayne Dyer and this doctor (whose name I heard, but couldn’t spell for you – I’m hoping he will read this blog and let us have his name because I think its such a wonderful story. ) I’m sure there is more to it and would love to hear all about it.
This picture was taken as they were about to go and have dinner with the Doctors family.
Isn’t that an inspiring story?
A great reminder of synchronicity and things happening that you have no control over, but end up being a great result for those involved. I was also very glad to see that Wayne was looking very relaxed and well, and up and about!
What did I get out of this weekend?
- If there is something you really want to be or do, hold onto that and pursue it, no matter what your circumstances. Take the action you need to take, even if you don’t have any guarantee of achieving the big goal, move towards it anyway.
- If there is someone you want to meet, go to where they are speaking or hanging out – and who knows what might happen to get you together with them!
- Life is a tapestry. We never know what will transpire and come together in a beautiful pattern. Even if we can’t see the pattern right now, it’s being made while we enjoy our journey. When you look back you will see the pattern and it will be more beautiful and bigger than you imagined possible.
- Don’t ever give up. Ever. Never ever.
WHO WOULD YOU MOST LIKE TO MEET? If you could meet anyone alive, anywhere in the world, who would that be? Please post your comments below!
Enjoy the rest of your Chooseday!
Jill Hutchison
The Connection Coach
Assisting Successful People to Realign their Goals with Passion and Purpose
www.evolvedynamic.net
www.jillhutchison.com
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life…
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.
It turns what we have into enough and more.
It can turn a meal into a feast,
a house into a home and a stranger into a friend.
~
Melody Beattie
To order your Attitude of Gratitude Journal, by Jill Kean Hutchison, click here.
We need more entrepreneurs
We should be teaching our kids to be entrepreneurs rather than to get a good job! Cameron Herald raises some brilliant points about how we raise our kids. Recognise what they are good at, not what they aren’t good at.
You can see the signs in kids of what they are good at – let’s listen to Cameron and build up our kids in their natural areas of strength. TED talks are really inspiring, much better than television any day!
What are your thoughts?
Work-life balance is a Myth!
Work-life balance is a Myth! Yes, you heard me! Striving for balance in life is setting yourself up for failure and frustration that you don’t have balance in your life.
The old notion of balance being like a see-saw, with each side precariously level and at risk of being thrown off balance, really doesn’t appeal to me. This is one of the main reasons why we called our company Evolve Dynamic. The world is evolving. The earth is turning, everything is in constant movement. We are in a dynamic environment (even if it doesn’t always feel like it!)
The tides ebb and flow, the moon waxes and wanes. The sun rises and sets. The wind either blows so gently we can hardly feel it, or it blows in various degrees and at various speeds. Everything around us is in constant movement.
In the same way as you can sit in an aircraft, cruising at a million miles an hour, totally relaxed, with a glass of wine or your favourite food or beverage – I like to use this visual as equilibrium – balance in motion! It’s so much more fun to have a dynamic life, with both ups and downs and with curve balls thrown at us from time to time!
Evolve Dynamic – improve, develop, stretch – in such a way as to be exciting or dynamic. How much more fun is it if we can grow, develop and have perfect equilibrium while still going places at speed? You become more resilient and flexible when you’re at equilibrium rather than precariously balanced.
Aiming to have a static balance: Everything perfectly in its place, doing things the same way every week, month or year. Everything perfectly planned out. This is just setting yourself up to be frustrated. As soon as everything gets all straightened out, something will happen to upset the apple cart. If you have kids, the apple cart gets upset twice as often, with even more upheaval than ever before!
There is no such thing as work-life balance. You can’t give 50% to work and 50% to life. You only have one life! When you’re working, give 100% to work. When you’re with your family, give 100% to your family. When you’re relaxing, then relax and recharge 100%. Trying to split yourself up to ‘balance’ work and home is a fruitless exercise.
Get clear on what you really, really want in your life. If you like fun, then think what your ideal day would look like if you had as much time and money as you’d like. What would your ideal week look like? Ideal year?
You have no idea what a relief you’ll feel when you drop balance from your vocabulary – and substitute it with something that you can actually succeed at and maintain. Try it today and let me know how it feels!
It’s My Time Perth workshop is on 27 October 2012. Tickets on sale now – book here.
Jill Hutchison
Perth, Australia
It’s My Time workshop is on 27 October 2012. Tickets on sale now – book here.
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